by Dr. David Anthony Palmer, Ed.D.
Introduction
If you’re a parent or teacher supporting a neurodivergent child, you know the struggle is real. The forgotten homework, the emotional meltdowns, the battles over getting started on even the simplest tasks—it can feel overwhelming and often impossible.
But here’s the thing: it’s not because your child isn’t trying hard enough. Executive function challenges are part of how their brain is wired. These kids often need extra support to build skills like planning, organization, and self-regulation.
That’s where I come in.
As a coach, I don’t work directly with kids—I coach you.
I help parents and teachers embrace, engage, enhance, equip, and empower their kids with the strategies they need to thrive. Because when the adults in a child’s life understand executive function and how to support it, that child has a much greater chance of success to express who they truly are and what they are able to accomplish.
So let’s dive in. What exactly is executive function? Why do so many neurodivergent kids struggle with it? And most importantly—what can you do to help?
What Are Executive Functions?
Executive Function in Simple Terms
Executive functions are like the brain’s “GPS system.” They help us plan, stay organized, manage emotions, and get things done.
For many kids, these skills develop naturally over time. But for neurodivergent kids—especially those with ADHD, autism, or a history of trauma—executive function can be a major challenge. They may struggle with:
✅ Following multi-step directions
✅ Staying focused on tasks
✅ Managing time and responsibilities
✅ Controlling impulses and emotions
When executive function skills are weak, learning and daily life become frustrating—for the child and for the adults supporting them.
Why Neurodivergent Kids Struggle with Executive Function
It’s Not Just “Bad Behavior”
Many parents and teachers assume that when a child is disorganized, forgetful, or impulsive, they’re just being lazy or oppositional. But this isn’t a choice—it’s a brain-based difference.
Think about it this way: If a child with dyslexia struggles to read, we don’t tell them to “just try harder.” Instead, we give them the right tools and strategies to help them succeed.
The same goes for executive function. Kids who struggle in this area need specific supports—not punishment or shame.
Executive Function is Tied to Brain Development
The part of the brain responsible for executive function—the prefrontal cortex—is one of the last to fully develop. For neurodivergent kids, this development can be even slower, meaning they need more coaching, practice, and structure to strengthen these skills.
That’s where you come in. Whether you’re a parent or a teacher, you have a powerful role in helping a child learn, practice, and strengthen executive function skills over time.
How I Coach Parents and Teachers to Support Executive Function Growth
1. Shifting the Mindset: From “Fixing” to Supporting
Your child isn’t broken. They don’t need to be fixed. Instead, they need scaffolding—the right environment, routines, and support systems to help them succeed.
2. Teaching Strategies for Real-Life Situations
Instead of just learning about executive function in theory, I help parents and teachers apply practical, real-world strategies to:
✔️ Help kids get started on tasks (task initiation)
✔️ Reduce forgetfulness (working memory support)
✔️ Manage big emotions (emotional regulation strategies)
✔️ Teach time awareness and planning (time management)
The goal?
To create sustainable systems and habits that make life easier for both you and your child.
Practical Strategies for Parents & Teachers
🟡 Helping Kids Get Started on Tasks
Does your child struggle to start their homework or clean their room? Task initiation is a major executive function challenge.
Here’s how to help:
✔ Use countdowns: “In five minutes, we’ll start.” Give reminders so transitions aren’t abrupt.
✔ Break it down: Instead of “clean your room,” say “Put all the Legos in the bin.”
✔ Offer a ‘warm-up’ task: Let them start with something easy before tackling the bigger task.
🔵 Building Better Routines and Organization
Forgetfulness and disorganization aren’t choices—they’re symptoms of executive dysfunction.
To help:
✔ Create visual schedules so kids can see what’s coming next.
✔ Use timers to teach time awareness.
✔ Make instructions simple and clear.
🟢 Supporting Emotional Regulation
Big emotions often lead to big reactions.
Instead of saying, “Calm down,” try:
✔ Co-regulation first. Stay calm and help them feel safe.
✔ Name the emotion: “I see you’re really frustrated.”
✔ Use a ‘reset’ strategy: Offer movement breaks, breathing exercises, or a fidget tool.
🟠 Teaching Time Awareness & Planning
Many kids with executive function challenges have no concept of time.
Teach them by:
✔ Using visual timers so they can “see” time passing.
✔ Practicing estimating time: Ask, “How long do you think this will take?”
✔ Building in buffer time to avoid last-minute rushes.
Why Schools Need to Prioritize Executive Function Coaching for Teachers
Most teacher training programs don’t teach executive function strategies. That means educators are often left to figure it out on their own.
By providing coaching and training on executive function, schools can:
✅ Reduce classroom disruptions by teaching self-regulation skills.
✅ Improve student engagement by using strategies that help kids stay on track.
✅ Foster independence so kids don’t rely on adults for every step.
This isn’t about making teachers work harder—it’s about giving them the tools to work smarter and make their classrooms more effective.
Conclusion: Coaching Gives Parents & Teachers the Tools to Empower Neurodivergent Kids
Supporting a child with executive function challenges can feel exhausting, but you don’t have to do it alone.
With the right strategies and support, you can help your child develop the skills they need to succeed—not just in school, but in life.
The key is consistency, patience, and understanding. Small, intentional changes can make a huge difference.
And if you need guidance on how to put these strategies into action,
I’m here to help. Reach out today: david@theimatter.co
FAQs
1. What age should I start supporting my child’s executive function development?You can start at any age! Even young children benefit from routines, structure, and co-regulation strategies.
2. Can executive function skills improve over time?Yes! The brain is always growing and adapting. With consistent practice and support, kids can strengthen these skills.
3. How do I know if my child needs executive function support?If they frequently forget things, struggle to follow directions, or have difficulty managing emotions, they likely need extra support in this area.
4. Do these strategies work for kids without ADHD or autism?Absolutely. Every child can benefit from executive function support—it’s just that neurodivergent kids need it even more.
5. How can I learn more about coaching support for parents and teachers?Reach out! I offer resources and coaching to help parents and teachers confidently support their neurodivergent kids.g coaching, we prepare students not just for tests but for lifelong success.
Supporting a neurodivergent child can feel overwhelming, but you don’t have to do it alone. The right strategies can make a world of difference—for both you and your child.
If you’re ready to learn how to embrace, engage, enhance, equip, and empower your child or students with the executive function skills they need to thrive, let’s connect!
👉 Book a free consultation to explore how coaching can support you.
👉 Join my email list for expert insights, practical strategies, and exclusive resources.
👉 Follow me on social media for daily tips on raising and teaching resilient, regulated kids.
You have the power to transform your child’s challenges into strengths.
Let’s do this together! 🚀
209-800-4637
Comments